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Monday, February 13, 2012

How Do You Mend a Broken Heart?

Yesterday afternoon I left home with intentions of going to meet some fellow bloggers at Starbucks in Shreveport.
 I went by my daughter's house to leave an outfit for Shelby (later post), and my husband called.
 When I looked at my daughter, I knew something was terribly wrong. I know you've been in my shoes!
  One of our dearly loved, long-time friends took her own life yesterday morning. I know my mouth fell open, and I was in total shock. I just knew there had to be a mistake!
 You see this person was always laughing, joking, and the happiest person I've ever been around. We emailed quite frequently as she was living in OK, but she grew up in this town. 
 She was like family. Many days when we emailed - those emails were between my husband, my daughter, Jay Dawn, and me! She loved knowing everything about everybody in town! When the church burned down on Christmas Eve, she was very distraught. She was a part of so many people here that I can't even begin to explain.
 She sent gifts, cards, emails, texts, and you name it, to so many!
 So how in the world did we miss the fact that she must have been in some kind of turmoil, some kind of endless pain, and something in which she thought she couldn't face? 
 We all have so many questions without any answers! I already miss my friend soooo much just knowing she's not ever going to be at the end of that email again. I could talk to her about anything, and it's only been a few days since we were emailing back and forth.
  I know she loved and believed in God! My only comfort is to see her again some day. 
 Please remember her sisters, brother, husband, cousins, and many, many friends in your prayers. Everyone is hurting............
R.I.P. - Jay Dawn - July 7, 1961 - Feb. 12. 2012


From the Kitchen said...

Shirley: I'm so sorry to hear about your dear friend. She does look very happy. One never knows what is in the heart of another. I hope she is at peace.


Rebecca said...

Heartbreaking...I live in Oklahoma so if there is anything my family and I can do to help her family please let us know. We are HERE!

So very sorry for your loss.

Love to you~Rebecca

EmptyNester said...

I am so, so sorry. Hubs and our youngest both have had friends take their own lives and it is devastating. I have no idea how it is possible to miss the signs except that, sometimes, there just don't seem to be any signs. My prayers are with everyone.

Susan said...

Shirley, so sorry to hear about your dear friend. Her family and yours are in my prayers.

My Journey With Candida said...

Sorry to hear this Shirley. I guess she must of been having some huge problems that she did not want to burden anyone else with. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

Tammy@Simple Southern Happiness said...

I pray that the lord will ease many hearts that are in pain due to this loss of life. It leaves so many wondering if they missed the signs. Sometimes there are no signs and that makes it all the more heart crushing.

GOD be with you all.

MosaicMagpie said...

I am so very sorry Shirley. Your heart has to go out to someone that feels as though they are so alone, so tormented, so lost that suicide is their only way out. My heart goes out to you as well. As her friend, I know you must me wondering if there was something you could have done or said. Imagine how her family must feel....all so very sad.
The photo you posted of her is of a lady full of life and fun. What a beautiful smile. I am sorry for your loss and I hope the family will find some closure. I will be praying for all of you.

Debbie Huffaker said...

Oh, Ms. Shirly, I'm so very sorry for such a tragic loss. We never know what a person is going thru in their minds and hearts...what struggles they're facing. So glad to know she knew our Lord and Savior as her own!!

Lindsey said...

I am so sorry for your loss.

Rettabug said...

Shirley, I'm am so, so very sorry to read about the loss of your good friend. It must be heartbreaking to think that she was in so much emotional pain as to end her own life.
Perhaps it was due to some medication she was on? It can be a serious side effect. I guess you'll never know but at least you DO know she is in a much better place now, without pain & suffering.
May His PEACE be with you.

Gentle Hugs,